Feeding the Growing Athlete

It’s 3:35p.m., One kid needs to be at football by 4:45. Another is lacing up for a cross-country meet. Three more need to be at the gym in a leotard with their hair up 3 towns over, and all five have a science project due tomorrow. That’s a normal Tuesday at our house.

I’m a mom of five teens who also is a dietitian, and I still don’t have a perfect meal plan. What I do have is a plan that works most days, holds up on the messy ones, and keeps five growing bodies fed enough to learn, train, and recover.

The goal isn’t perfect nutrition. It’s a simple plan for real life.

What “Fueling the Growing Body” Really Means

Practice starts before your kid walks in the door. Food, fluids, and recovery are part of training, just like drills and conditioning. Teen athletes are asking their bodies to do three big jobs at once:

  1. Grow. The early teen years bring some of the fastest growth of their whole life: bones, muscles, brains, hormones, all of it.
  2. Learn. A full school day takes real energy. Focus, memory, and mood all run better on regular meals.
  3. Train. Practice, games, meets, and conditioning burn a lot on top of everything else.

When you add those up, most teen athletes need more food than parents expect, and they need it spread out across the day. This is not the season for cutting, skipping meals, “eating clean” to the extreme, or trying to change body size for a sport. A growing athlete who’s under-fueled doesn’t just feel tired. Their body starts making trade-offs, and growth and bone health are often the ones that pay.

So in our house, the question isn’t “Is this the healthiest possible food?” It’s “Did they eat enough, often enough, to do everything we’re asking of them today?”

The Busy-Week Map

Here’s how a typical school-and-practice day breaks down for us. Every family’s schedule is different, so borrow the parts that fit.

Before School: Breakfast Counts

Breakfast is the first fuel stop of a long day. It doesn’t need to be fancy. It needs to happen.

Quick ideas that work in our kitchen:

  • Eggs + a bagel + avocado or peanut butter (or a seed butter)
  • Overnight oats with Greek yogurt and a fruit and nuts of their choice
  • Peanut butter (or seed butter) and banana on toast
  • A smoothie with yogurt, fruit, and oats, plus a handful of nuts on the way out

If your teen “isn’t hungry” in the morning, start small. A glass of milk and a banana is better than nothing, and appetite often grows once breakfast becomes a habit.

Packing the Day: Lunch and the Backpack Snack

Lunch is what powers the afternoon and the start of practice. A lunch that’s just crackers won’t cover it. We aim for carbs + protein + a healthy fat (more on that formula below).

Then there’s what I call the backpack snack, the one they eat between classes when lunch didn’t last. This snack does a lot of heavy lifting, especially when lunch was at 10:45 and dinner is still hours away. Pack it the night before. Future you will be grateful.

After School, Before Practice

This is where a lot of teen athletes come up short. Lunch was hours ago, and they head straight into training running on fumes.

The general rhythm:

  • A fuller meal a few hours before practice (that’s usually lunch).
  • A smaller, easy-to-digest snack closer to practice, mostly carbohydrate with a little protein. Think fruit + a cheese stick, pretzels + a yogurt, half a sandwich, or a granola bar + milk.

Closer to practice, keep high-fat, high-fiber, and very heavy foods lighter. They digest slower and can leave some kids feeling sluggish or crampy, especially runners and gymnasts who are moving, flipping, or bouncing.

Dinner (In the car or at 8 p.m.)

Late dinners are real life in sports families. It’s okay. Dinner is still a full meal: carbs, protein, healthy fat, and some color from fruits or vegetables. If dinner is very late, the after-practice recovery snack becomes even more important so nobody hits the table starving and wiped out.

And then: homework, shower, sleep. Sleep is when a lot of growing and recovering happens. Protect it like you’d protect practice time.

The Next Morning

Recovery doesn’t end at bedtime. Breakfast the next morning restarts the cycle, especially after a hard practice, an evening game, or a long meet day.

The Build-a-Meal Formula

When I’m tired and the fridge is half-empty, I fall back on one simple formula:

Carbs (grains and fruit) + protein + a healthy fat

  • Carbs are the main fuel for training and for the brain. Think bread, rice, pasta, tortillas, oats, potatoes, crackers, and fruit.
  • Protein helps build and repair muscle and supports growth. Think meat, chicken, fish, eggs, dairy, beans, and tofu.
  • Healthy fats help with fullness, growth, and overall health. Think avocado, nut or seed butters, nuts, seeds, olive oil, and cheese.

Add a fruit or vegetable when you can. 

Meal Ideas That Work Across Sports

These are on regular rotation at our house. Most travel well, and many can be made ahead.

  • Meat and cheese sandwich + an apple with peanut butter or seed butter
  • Chicken and rice with sliced avocado
  • Protein pasta with your favorite sauce
  • Eggs + bagel + avocado or peanut butter (or seed butter)
  • Tortellini with red sauce and spinach
  • Turkey and cheese wrap + fruit
  • Hawaiian pita: ham, pineapple, and cheese tucked into a pita
  • Taco bowl: rice, seasoned meat or beans, cheese, salsa, and avocado
  • Mediterranean bowl: rice or quinoa, chicken, cucumber, tomato, hummus, and feta
  • PB&B: peanut butter (or seed butter) and banana on bread or a tortilla
  • Tuna salad with crackers or on a sandwich
  • Overnight oats with fruit and a spoonful of nut or seed butter
  • Mini pizzas on sandwich thins
  • Meat and cheese snack box with crackers, fruit, and cheese curds

Nut allergy at home or at school? Almond butter, seed butter, or organic soy-based spreads swap in nicely almost anywhere you see peanut butter. Always check your school’s or team’s allergy rules, and read labels for cross-contact.

Hydration: Top Priority

If you only change one thing this week, make it water. Even mild dehydration can make practice feel harder and leave kids feeling tired, headachy, or off. And teens are notorious for forgetting to drink until they’re already thirsty.

What works for us:

  • Send a full water bottle to school every day, and refill it before practice.
  • Drink through the day, not just at practice. Chugging a bottle in the car rarely makes up for a dry school day.
  • For longer or harder sessions (think long runs, hot football practices, two-a-days, all-day meets or tournaments), fluids with electrolytes and some carbohydrate, like a sports drink, can help replace sweat losses and support energy. For a regular practice of about an hour, water is usually enough.
  • Pay attention to heat. Hot days, heavy pads, and indoor gyms without air conditioning all raise fluid needs.

A Note on Caffeine

Energy drinks, pre-workouts, and coffee drinks are everywhere, and teens see older athletes using them. Caffeine isn’t recommended for kids and teens. It can disrupt sleep, which growing athletes badly need for recovery, and it can leave some kids jittery, anxious, or with a racing heart. Energy drinks – even Bubbler – are a firm no in our house. A good snack, enough water, and a decent night’s sleep do far more for a teen athlete.

Between Sessions, Drills, or Events

Hydration is the priority here. For long sessions, two-a-days, tournaments, or meets, a small, easy carb snack during breaks can help support energy.

On long days with breaks, such as meets, tournaments, or races with multiple events, easy options include:

  • Applesauce or yogurt pouches
  • A smoothie
  • Fruit, pretzels, or crackers
  • Trail mix

A sport-specific tip on trail mix: it’s great between sessions, but it’s heavier on fat and fiber, so it’s not ideal right before or in the middle of training. For gymnastics, save it for longer breaks rather than between rotations. For football, it works better at halftime of a long day or after practice than mid-drill. For cross-country, save it for after the race; before a run, stick to simpler carbs like a banana or pretzels.

Recovery: Refill the Tank

The car ride home is prime refueling time. A snack with carbs + protein within about 30 to 60 minutes after practice helps muscles recover and refills the tank, especially when dinner is still a ways off. We keep recovery snacks in the car for exactly this reason.

The simple rule: Carbs + protein within about 30 to 60 minutes.

After harder or longer sessions, some families like aiming for roughly twice as many carbs as protein. That ratio is optional. Getting a solid mix of carbs and protein in, and soon, is what matters most.

Our Favorite Recovery Picks

  • Cottage cheese + crackers + peaches
  • Snackle box: nuts or seeds, pretzels, cheese, and dried fruit in a tackle-box-style container
  • Yogurt parfait with granola and berries
  • Trail mix (with seeds instead of nuts if needed)
  • Bagel with peanut butter or seed butter + a hard-boiled egg
  • Chocolate milk + peanut butter toast (or seed butter toast)
  • Eggs in a frame: an egg cooked in the middle of a slice of toast
  • Half a turkey sandwich + a piece of fruit
  • Leftover pasta or rice bowl from last night’s dinner

Chocolate milk deserves a special shout-out. It’s cheap, kid-approved, travels in a lunch box with an ice pack, and brings both carbs and protein plus fluid.

When to Worry: Signs a Teen Athlete May Be Under-Fueling

This section is for parents and the clinicians who care for your child, like your pediatrician or a registered dietitian. It is not a checklist for coaches to screen athletes. If you notice something, the next step is a conversation with your child’s doctor or dietitian.

One symptom on its own doesn’t mean something is wrong. Teens get tired, moody, and hungry for all kinds of reasons. But several of these together, or signs that keep showing up, deserve attention:

  • Low energy that doesn’t bounce back with rest
  • Performance stalling or getting worse despite hard training
  • Frequent injuries, especially stress fractures or injuries that are slow to heal
  • Getting sick often
  • Mood changes: more irritable, anxious, down, or withdrawn
  • Trouble focusing at school
  • Growth slowing, or weight dropping or stalling during a time they should be growing
  • Feeling cold all the time, dizziness, or lightheadedness
  • Skipping meals, eating much less than teammates, or avoiding whole food groups
  • Strong worry about food, body size, or “earning” food through exercise
  • Changes in periods: periods that stop, become irregular, or haven’t started when expected
  • Labs that keep coming back low (like iron) at checkups

What’s Going On When Athletes Under-Fuel

When an athlete consistently doesn’t eat enough to cover training plus growth plus everyday life, the body starts cutting back to save energy. Doctors call this relative energy deficiency in sport, often shortened to RED-S. In plain words: there isn’t enough fuel for the amount of training.

You may also have heard of the female athlete triad. That describes three connected issues in girls and women: not enough fuel, changes in periods, and weaker bones.

But this isn’t just a “girl thing.” Boys and teen athletes of every gender can under-fuel too. It can show up as low energy, mood changes, slowed growth, hormone changes, and more injuries. My son’s football schedule and my daughter’s cross-country miles can drain a body just as fast as my gymnasts’ practices.

Many cases aren’t on purpose. A busy schedule, a small appetite, a long gap between lunch and practice, or a big growth spurt can all leave a kid short without anyone noticing. Sometimes, though, under-fueling is tied to disordered eating or an eating disorder.

Early care matters. Getting help sooner lowers the chance of lasting effects on growth, bones, and health. If you’re worried, call your pediatrician and ask about seeing a registered dietitian who works with young athletes.

If you suspect an eating disorder, please don’t try to handle it with a meal plan. This post isn’t medical advice or treatment for eating disorders. Reach out to your child’s doctor right away. If there are signs of immediate danger, such as fainting, chest pain, or thoughts of self-harm, seek urgent care or call or text 988.

A Simple Plan Beats a Perfect One

Most weeks at our house are not Pinterest-worthy. There are drive-thru nights, cereal-for-dinner nights, and nights when somebody eats a granola bar in the car while finishing a worksheet. That’s okay.

What keeps us steady is a handful of simple habits:

  • Eat breakfast, even a small one.
  • Pack the backpack snack the night before.
  • Carry a water bottle everywhere.
  • Fuel before practice: carbs + a little protein.
  • Refuel after practice: carbs + protein within an hour.
  • Protect sleep.
  • Watch the big picture, and loop in your pediatrician or dietitian if something feels off.

Our kids are growing, learning, and training all at the same time. When we fuel them for all three, they don’t just perform better. They have what they need to grow, recover, and enjoy the sports they love.

That’s what Fuel to Flourish™ is all about.

This post is for general education and isn’t a substitute for individual medical or nutrition care. Every athlete is different. Talk with your child’s pediatrician or a registered dietitian about your family’s specific needs, allergies, or health concerns.

The Gift of Written Word

There’s something powerful about taking a story that lives in your heart and finally putting it into words.

I’m incredibly grateful to Motivational MD Publishing for helping me transform one story into a growing collection of books and, ultimately, a bigger vision for Fuel to Flourish™.

Sometimes writing a book doesn’t just tell your story. It helps you discover what you’re meant to do with it!

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Looking Back after 13 Years

Every July I open the virtual photo albums and reminisce over the last 365 days. I smile, I cry, I chuckle, I think about the “what if’s” and let those worries go, and count my blessings: 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5. I compile photos that articulate where each member of the V5 started the previous year and who they became. I add photos I know that they’ll cherish and sprinkle in a few that I know will make them cringe but smile inside. Then, I listen to countless songs trying to find the right one that I know they’d listen to and think, “yep that was me at 13.” My favorite part of building these collages is watching them one-on-one with each of them. We always catch little mistakes the first time through and they beg for me to take a photo out but they typically stay. Each one ends with a side hug and kiss on their head.

Join me as we look at Theo, Bella, Lily, Kali and Ellie over the last year!

Happy 13th Theo!

Happy 13th Bella!

Happy 13th Lily!

Happy 13th Kali!

Happy 13th Ellie!

Ellie’s audio: How to save a life: https://youtu.be/cjVQ36NhbMk?is=RGcdU_DVxLikDQpT

From Baby(ies) to Big Kids: Thirteen Years of Becoming

This week, the V5 turn thirteen. Thirteen. I sat with that sentence for a minute because for so long, our story was defined by the beginning. The shock of discovering there weren’t one, two, or even three babies growing inside me but five.

The appointments. The preparation. The uncertainty. The NICU. Then, the bottles and diapers and feeding schedules. Five car seats. Five cribs. Five tiny people who somehow needed us all at once.

When I wrote Bump to Baby(ies), I told the story of how our family began. It was a story about pregnancy, surrender, survival, and discovering courage when life multiplied in ways we never could have imagined.

That first season passed quickly. The days were long but the years short. They became toddlers with opinions. Preschoolers with personalities. Elementary schoolers discovering friendships, sports, strengths, and struggles. And now, somehow, they are teenagers.

The Story After Survival

People have asked us versions of the same question since the kids were born: How do you do it with five?

When they were babies, the answers were practical. Schedules. Systems. Preparation. Teamwork. And probably more coffee than medically advisable.

But as they grew, the question became much more complicated. How do we raise five children at the exact same age while honoring that they are five completely different people?

How do we create structure without controlling them?

How do we help them become resilient without protecting them from every struggle?

How do we teach responsibility while making home a place where mistakes are safe?

How do we stay connected as schedules, sports, school, friends, emotions, and independence begin pulling everyone in different directions?

And maybe the biggest question of all: How do we raise children who know they are deeply loved while preparing them to eventually walk into the world without us?

I definitely don’t have all the answers. Thirteen years into this parenting, social experiment, I’m more convinced of that than ever.

What I do have are lessons. Lots and lots of lessons. Some learned beautifully. Others learned the hard way.

One of the surprises of parenting has been realizing that children aren’t the only ones growing. The parents we were when five babies came home are not the parents we are today.

We’ve learned that connection matters more than control. That repair matters more than getting every interaction right. That our children can share the same home, the same parents, and even the same birthday and still need completely different things from us.

We’ve learned to laugh. We’ve learned to apologize. We’ve learned to have hard conversations. We’ve learned that sometimes the best parenting happens around the dinner table, driving to practice, or during a completely ordinary Tuesday night.

And we’ve learned that resilient families aren’t families without struggle. They’re families who learn how to move through struggle together. That became the heart of Baby(ies) to Big Kids.

A Book About Becoming

Baby(ies) to Big Kids isn’t a story about how we figured out parenting. Quite the opposite. It’s about what we’ve learned while figuring it out.

The CALM parenting framework is about raising resilient kids while continuing to become resilient adults. It’s about communication rooted in curiosity, anchoring values, connection through words and actions, responsibility, emotional awareness, and creating a family culture intentionally even when real life is loud and messy.

And because reading about these ideas only takes us so far, the story grew again. I created companion workbooks for parents and youth so families could move from reading about resilience and connection to actually practicing them together. What began as a story had become a set of resources. 

We Were Never Meant to Do This Alone

There’s another lesson woven throughout these thirteen years that deserves its own chapter: Family resilience doesn’t happen in isolation.

Our children have been shaped by grandparents, teachers, coaches, healthcare professionals, neighbors, friends, and people who have simply shown up again and again. So have I.

We have been privileged to grow up alongside two of our people, Alex and Danielle. Frank and Alex became best friends in high school, two kids from neighboring towns bonded by Seinfeld, classic rock, and countless hours writing and playing music in Alex’s basement before rocking talent shows and benefit concerts together. Their friendship followed them to college, where they joined the same fraternity and eventually served as president and vice president, and where Alex met Danielle, who quickly became part of our story,  too. Over the years, the four of us have celebrated, struggled, built careers, raised families, laughed, challenged one another, and become family. We are iron that sharpens iron, but perhaps our greatest lesson has been that even strong people need a village.

Danielle has been part of ours through so many chapters, which makes it especially meaningful that she wrote the foreword to Baby(ies) to Big Kids. There is something incredibly special about having someone who has witnessed the messy middle of your story help introduce it to the world.

And Now There Are Five Teenagers

On the weekend of their thirteenth birthday, I find myself looking backward and forward at the same time. I can still see those five tiny babies. But I also see five young people becoming increasingly themselves. And I know the next chapter will bring questions I haven’t even thought to ask yet.

But this week? I’m going to celebrate five thirteen-year-olds. I’m going to marvel at the fact that somehow we made it from five NICU isolettes to five teenagers. And I’m going to remind myself that we still haven’t arrived. Thank goodness.

Happy 13th birthday, Theo, Bella, Lily, Kali, and Ellie!

What an extraordinary adventure it is to grow alongside you.

When You’re Functioning, But Not Okay: Mental Health Awareness

Redefining What “Struggling” Really Looks Like

For a long time, health was measured by what we could see; Blood pressure. Weight. Lab values. Physical endurance. If those checked out, we called ourselves “healthy.” But something has shifted. We’re beginning to understand that mental and social wellbeing aren’t secondary – they are foundational. You can be physically “fine” and still be carrying a level of emotional weight that quietly erodes your quality of life.

And the data is catching up to what many have been feeling:

  • Among youth, rates of persistent sadness and hopelessness have risen significantly over the past decade, with nearly 1 in 3 adolescents reporting poor mental health in recent national surveys.
  • Adults report increasing levels of anxiety, burnout, and emotional exhaustion, especially those balancing caregiving, careers, and constant connectivity.
  • Older adults face rising levels of loneliness and isolation, both of which are now recognized as serious health risks comparable to chronic disease.

Here in the Midwest, including communities across Wisconsin, these trends are showing up in our schools, our workplaces, and our homes.

Struggling doesn’t always look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like showing up… while quietly unraveling.

The Cost of Holding It All Together

There’s a version of strength that gets praised in our culture; the ability to push through, stay composed, keep going no matter what. But there’s a cost to that kind of strength when it comes at the expense of processing what we carry.

Unresolved guilt.
Shame we never spoke out loud.
Hurt we minimized.
Forgiveness we haven’t fully worked through.

These don’t just disappear because we stay busy. They settle. And over time, that emotional weight doesn’t stay contained to the mind, it begins to show up in the body. It can look like irritability that feels disproportionate to the situation. Exhaustion that sleep doesn’t fix. A sense of numbness where joy used to live. When we carry things we haven’t acknowledged, the body keeps score in quiet, persistent ways. Holding it together isn’t the same as being okay.

The Brain–Body Connection

We often think of “impact on the body” as something reserved for major trauma. And while trauma absolutely leaves a physiological footprint, it’s not the only thing that does. Chronic, unrelenting stress – the kind that feels manageable day-to-day – can have a profound biological effect over time. When the body perceives stress, it releases cortisol. In short bursts, that’s helpful. It keeps us alert and responsive (think fight or flight). But when stress becomes constant, cortisol stays elevated. And that matters because sustained high cortisol levels are associated with increased visceral adiposity (fat stored around vital organs) which is linked to higher risks of cardiovascular disease, metabolic dysfunction, and inflammation. In other words: the body responds to emotional strain as if it were a physical threat.

This isn’t about blame – it’s about awareness.

Because the same system that responds to stress can also be supported and regulated. Small, consistent practices can help. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s giving the body signals of safety again.

The Turning Point: Holding Two Things at Once

There’s a concept introduced by Dr. Kim Whitmore in her book Grateful and Grieving that resonates deeply: the “ampersand” moments. The idea that two things can be true at the same time.

You can be grateful and grieving.
Strong and struggling.
Functioning and not okay.

That tension isn’t something to fix, it’s something to acknowledge. For many of us, the turning point doesn’t come from a dramatic breakdown. It comes from a quiet moment of honesty: Something feels off… and I’m willing to notice it.

Naming a feeling doesn’t make it worse. It makes it visible. And visibility is where change begins.

Even when your mind tells you to push it down. Even when old messages from childhood, culture, or expectation tell you to “get over it.” You’re allowed to feel what you feel.

Small Steps That Actually Help

When everything feels heavy, the answer isn’t to overhaul your life overnight. It’s to start small and start honestly. Here are a few simple ways to begin:

A 5-Step Grounding Exercise

This brings your body out of overwhelm and back into the present.

  • Name 5 things you can see
  • 4 things you can feel
  • 3 things you can hear
  • 2 things you can smell
  • 1 thing you can taste
5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Exercise

Name the Feeling (Without Fixing It)
Instead of “I’m fine,” try:

  • “I feel overwhelmed.”
  • “I feel frustrated.”
  • “I feel hurt.”

Clarity reduces internal tension.

Control What You Can, Release What You Can’t
Draw two columns:

  1. What I can control
  2. What I cannot

Seeing it visually helps your brain stop trying to solve the unsolvable.

Gentle Body Reset
A short walk. Stretching. Deep breathing. Not as punishment but as support.

One Honest Conversation
With yourself, or someone you trust. You don’t have to carry everything alone.

A Small Invitation Forward

You don’t have to solve everything today. You don’t have to unpack every layer of what you’ve been carrying. But you can start here:

Name one thing that’s been sitting beneath the surface.
Acknowledge it without minimizing it.
And take one small step forward.

Because progress in mental health doesn’t come from force. It comes from awareness followed by gentle action.

What’s Next

In the next piece, during Mental Health Awareness Month, I’ll be inviting a perspective that’s often missing from this conversation – our kids. Not as observers of mental health, but as participants in it.

Through their own words, we’ll explore what it looks like to experience emotions, pressure, resilience, and growth in the first 12 years of life. Because mental health isn’t something we arrive at later. It’s something we’re building together from the very beginning.

Taking on Three

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The V5 have fully embraced being three! They love being “big” kids who can pick out their own clothes and dress themselves, go potty on their own, take on any playground equipment mom will let them and enjoy new foods, which were previously no-go’s due to fears of choking. I believe my favorite part of them being three is watching their imaginations grow! They are finally learning how to engage with one another in thoughtful and dramatic play. Some days… okay most days… it is tug of war and a battle of wills, but there are moments when I catch them caring for one another, using nice words, and even complimenting each other.

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Their favorite play time activities include whipping up their favorite meals in their play kitchen, taking care of their dear stuffed animals, running pretend errands to the grocery store, heading to work or church, the doctor’s office and even tournaments (like Daddy). Outdoors they enjoy going to local parks, swinging on their play set, hunting for caterpillars, gardening (or picking unripened fruit) and playing in the sand.

They also are growing like never before. They love discovering which new ledges they can reach, how fast they can run from point A to point B and now which doors and windows they can open. It is a new challenge to stay one step ahead of this gang. Our best “red flag” that danger is impending is silence.

The girls’ hair also was growing so fast and so long that we took them for their first haircuts. They did so well that the stylist thought they were regulars. And, of course, Mr. Theo played “I spy” patiently throughout the salon as he waiting for his four sisters.

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Their knowledge of the world, emotions and others is also ever-increasing. I, now, have to agree with many parents when they say that threes are more difficult than two’s. The two-year-old is still learning to navigate the world before them and tantrums can often be the result of simple confusion; I have pity on the two-year-old. The three-year-old, while of course still learning, knows their world better, knows what they want, and knows each and every strategy to get it, or at least try to get it; I do not pity the three-year-old. I also am now a firm-believer in threenagers; they’re real and they’re nasty.

I can’t say it better than the Huffington Post’s Top 10 Signs You Are Living with a Threenager

  1. You live in constant fear of how to cut the shape of their toast. Do they want triangles today, rectangles, squares? And when they do tell you, they change their mind right after you cut it.
  2. They say things like (with hands firmly placed on hips), “I don’t want to. I want to do what I want to do!”
  3. You go through three or more wardrobe changes a day.
  4. Your child goes boneless the second you remind them that a transition is coming, especially when they are asked to stop playing. By the way, when was this ability given to children? You know, lay limp and double your body weight so mom can’t move you. It’s a talent reminiscent of a possum playing dead…
  5. They run away from you when it’s time to get dressed, or undressed, or do anything they deem unnecessary. In fact running away from you is their favorite activity. (Cardio workout?)
  6. To nap or not to nap, that is the question. A threenager’s answer will always be emphatically “NO!”
  7. They want three (or more) of everything because they are three.
  8. Threenagers do not possess patience.
  9. You have to leave a 10 minute buffer on any activity so they can it all on by their “OWN SELF!”
  10. You realize they’ll be a great trial lawyer one day when they’ve just negotiated their way out of a time-out.

I won’t miss the drama of the threenager years, but I know I will miss the sweet cuddles, sincere naivete, and their expressions when trying something for the first time.

Looking Back at Elliott Rose

Baby E, our Elliott Rose, is the “youngest” of the bunch. Many of you may recall that Ellie was tucked way at the top of Mommy’s tummy and has her own penthouse suite in the womb. She was a mover and shaker then and is certainly now. She is fondly called, “Ellie-nado” because she doesn’t sit. Her happy place is anywhere that she can bounce, run, dance without harm… aka a bouncy house.

When Ellie is happy, she is really happy and likewise when Ellie is angry, she is really angry. She is an independent woman who has been the first of V5 to take on crawling, walking, running, going up and down stairs, riding a tricycle, putting on her clothes and shoes, etc. I believe it is because of her determined attitude. If Ellie sets her mind to it, she won’t quit until it is accomplished all by her “own-self.”

It also wasn’t until recently that Ellie-Rosie found her words. She previously  talked incredibly fast and it was difficult to decipher what she was saying. She has learned to slow down her speech and is still practing her pronounciation. Many thanks to her Phonic instructor- Mr. Theo- who will often correct her.

Rose’s favorites are easy to guess, as you will see…

Her Favorite Animal: KITTIES!

Her Favorite Stuffed Animal: White Kitty (Marie from Aristocats), Black Kitty Pillow Pal (Whiskers), Little Jaguar Kitty (“Pink Kitty”)

Her Favorite Animated Character: Hello Kitty, known has Kitty-Catch-My-Fire due to the Theme Song

Her Favorite Show: Hello Kitty

Her Favorite Food: Anything without onions

Her Favorite Activity: Moving! Swinging, Dancing, Jumping, Running, Spinning… she doesn’t stop.

Now, let’s look back at Ellie’s second year…

Ellie at two years…

If you really want to turn back the clock, check out Ellie’s First Year…

Looking Back at Lillian

Lillian Grace is as sweet as she is silly. She is consistently seeking to please both her parents and her siblings. She is our household helper and loves to lend a hand. Her favorite way to help is to find and retrieve “lost” items. She’s amazing at finding what other’s need, but somehow can’t find what she needs even if it is right under her nose.

Lily’s best friend remains her stuffed koala, Uti. He has been her companion for years now and will not close her eyes at night if he is not tucked right under her chin.

Lily can be silly, but she can also be a tease. She is the best at “pushing her sibs’ buttons.” Whether it be stealing their toy, calling them a goofy name or squishing them, she knows how to rile up the crowd. Her signature move is the Lily Lean; it is Theo’s “fave.” She’s been practicing that one since the womb.

Her other favorites include…

Her Favorite Animal: Koala and Turtle

Her Favorite Stuffed Animal: Uti (of course) but her Mousey (featured in If You Give a Mouse a Cookie) is a close second

Her Favorite Show: Blue Clues

Her Favorite Food: Meat, Lily is a true carnivore

Her Favorite Activity: Family Hugs

Now, here’s a look back at Lillians’ second year…

Lily at two years…

If you really want to turn back the clock, check out Lily’s First Year…

Summer Fun

The summer of 2016 has been a blast! It still amazes me how much children grow up between the ages of two and three; too many milestones to count. At two years… I was so fearful if I caught them climbing, running, and jumping and now at three years, I want them to climb, run and jump! This summer the V5 have had ample opportunity to do so, too! We have explored local dream parks, splash pads, played polar bear plunge in our mini pool and slip and slide, hit up the zoo, farms and bounce on every bouncy house in sight. Not to mention… turning three, moving to “big kid” beds and receiving their very own “park” (aka play house).  The kiddos even go to attend their first wedding!

They soak it all in just like the rays of sunshine. It is amazing what they recall from months ago… down to the color socks they wore when we went to the zoo the last time.

I had to capture these precious memories…here’s to many more!

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Turning the Corner

Time continues to roll by; days turn into weeks, weeks into months and now months are quickly turning into years. At some point in the last few months, the V5 turned the corner. One evening, they went to bed little squirmy wormy caterpillars and woke up beautiful butterflies. We have truly witnessed our babies’ metamorphosis into little people.

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They are verbal and becoming more articulate; all can mumble through the ABC’s. Their coloring and writing skills are becoming more and more impressive; all can spell their names. Most often you have to rearrange a few letters but they’re all on the paper. They are becoming more independent with each day; all are day-potty trained. They are scary-mobile. I recall keeping them down off high equipment at the park and back from ledges knowing that their little bodies would keep them from doing what their minds were determined to do. But, now, now I just wince a bit as they jump from here to there, or climb as high as they feel comfortable and run as quickly as their legs will carry them. It’s amazing.

My favorite marker of growth, however, is the growth of their imagination. I love watching my children use their creative minds to make up games, stories and scenarios as they either play alone or with each other (rarity, but it does happen). Most of the time you’ll find…

Theo having some “boy-time” playing with his orange lam-bor-ghini and green tractor, heading off to Farm and Fleet.

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Bella playing dress-up and hurrying off to church, the grocery store or the eye doctors. She has the most elaborate imagination and will keep herself busy in her creative world for hours if we let her.

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Lily typically hovers around any and all of her siblings, wanting to play along or simply snatch the toy their playing with. It’s not malicious, only devious. She’s a little troublemaker. Her favorite scenarios these days are caring for her little koala (Uti) or mouse (Mousie) and helping them learn how to use the potty.

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K-Mae loves to write, draw and color. You’ll find her at the blue table writing her name, drawing shapes or coloring little yellow bears and piggies. When she’s not practicing her penmanship, she’ll be running around with Bella. Since those two became roomies a few months ago, they have been nearly inseparable.

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Ellie is a mover and a shaker. All of her imaginative play is as active as it can be. Her favorite games to play are “obst-cle” course and “bouncy house” where we rearrange the couch to be a huge square for her to bounce around in. It was a real treat when the Whitakers’ borrowed us their real bouncy house.

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When Rosie is all tuckered out, you will also find her snuggled up with her entourage of stuffed kitties and a pink blanket.

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It is ever so hard to believe that they will be three years old in two weeks. The transition from toddlerhood has been real physically, emotionally and socially. We have truly watched them turn the corner and are now excited to watch them head down the road to new knowledge, skills and adventures.

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