What 90 seconds Can Teach Us About Life

This week I sat in a convention center in Knoxville, Tennessee surrounded by hundreds of gymnasts from across the country.

One by one they saluted the judges. Ninety seconds. Years of practice. Thousands of repetitions. Countless falls. Blisters. Tears. Mental blocks. Comebacks. Victories. Disappointments.

All distilled into a routine shorter than most commercial breaks.

As I watched my daughters compete at the AAU National Championships, I found myself thinking less about scores and podiums and more about what gymnastics quietly teaches our children long before they ever receive a medal.

Because gymnastics isn’t just a sport. It’s an education in resilience.

The Imbalance That Teaches Balance

Few youth sports ask so much for so little time in the spotlight. Many competitive gymnasts train 15–25 hours each week. That’s hundreds of hours every season preparing for routines that last only seconds.

One wobble on beam.
One missed hand placement on bars.
One landing slightly off.

Months of preparation can change in an instant. And yet…

The next day they buckle their grips, tape their joints, chalk their hands, tighten their ponytails, and start again. What an incredible lesson for life.

More Than Physical Strength

Most people see the muscles. They notice the power. The flexibility on floor. The precision on beam. But what they don’t see may be even more impressive. The courage to throw a skill after falling. The confidence to compete while your heart races and their legs wobble from adrenaline. The discipline to practice the same movement thousands of times. The humility to accept coaching. The patience to trust that progress isn’t always linear and that their self-worth II not defined by their last rep.

These are not just athletic skills. They’re life skills.

The Four Pillars of Resilience

As someone who spends much of my career thinking about health, care models and system that promote holistic well-being, gymnastics reminds me that flourishing isn’t just about physical fitness. It’s about the whole person.

Physical resilience is built through strength, flexibility, balance, coordination, endurance, fueling, recovery, and learning how to care for your body.

Mental resilience grows every time an athlete chooses courage over fear, focuses after a mistake, or learns to quiet the voice that says, “What if I can’t?”

Emotional resilience develops when disappointment becomes determination, when frustration gives way to persistence, and when success is celebrated without letting it define your worth.

Social resilience is found in teammates cheering louder than anyone else even if it meana trading spots on the podium, coaches who believe before athletes believe in themselves, families who spend weekends traveling together, and friendships forged through shared challenges.

These young athletes aren’t simply learning gymnastics. They’re learning how to navigate life.

Behind Every Routine

People often ask about medals. I think about the mornings that started before sunrise. The long drives. The endless affirmations and behavioral coaching to break the cycle of unhealthy thoughts.

The braces and wraps. The grips. The ice packs. The stretching routines. The pep talks in the parking lot. The heart hands from across the gym that connect our souls and fuel confidence.

I think about coaches who refuse to lower the bar because they know these girls are capable of more. I think about parents learning to say, “I’m proud of you,” regardless of the score. I think about teammates who erupt with joy when someone finally lands the skill they’ve been chasing for months. That’s the part spectators rarely see. And maybe it’s the most beautiful part of all.

Wisconsin Has Something to Celebrate

This month, athletes from Flip City Gymnastics, Hartford Gymnastics Academy, Ultimate Performance Gymnastics, and other Wisconsin clubs represented our state with heart, determination, and grit at the AAU National Championships.

I’m especially proud that several Wisconsin gymnasts including two from our own family earned qualification to the AAU Junior Olympic Games this August in Des Moines, Iowa. What an incredible accomplishment. Not because they qualified. Because they became the kind of young women who were willing to do the work long before anyone was watching.

To the Girls

If you’re reading this someday, I hope you remember this:

Your score will fade. Your medals will eventually collect dust. But your character That stays.

The resilience you’ve built inside the gym will carry you into classrooms, careers, relationships, parenthood, leadership, and every challenge life places before you.

No judge can score that. And no one can ever take it away.

So here’s to every gymnast stepping onto the competition floor this August. Wisconsin is cheering for you. We’ll be cheering even louder for the women and men you’re becoming.

Now let’s rally behind these incredible athletes as they head to the AAU Junior Olympic Games in Des Moines!

Leave a note of encouragement in the comments, share this post to support Wisconsin gymnastics, and help these young women feel an entire community standing behind them as they take the national stage.

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When You’re Functioning, But Not Okay: Mental Health Awareness

Redefining What “Struggling” Really Looks Like

For a long time, health was measured by what we could see; Blood pressure. Weight. Lab values. Physical endurance. If those checked out, we called ourselves “healthy.” But something has shifted. We’re beginning to understand that mental and social wellbeing aren’t secondary – they are foundational. You can be physically “fine” and still be carrying a level of emotional weight that quietly erodes your quality of life.

And the data is catching up to what many have been feeling:

  • Among youth, rates of persistent sadness and hopelessness have risen significantly over the past decade, with nearly 1 in 3 adolescents reporting poor mental health in recent national surveys.
  • Adults report increasing levels of anxiety, burnout, and emotional exhaustion, especially those balancing caregiving, careers, and constant connectivity.
  • Older adults face rising levels of loneliness and isolation, both of which are now recognized as serious health risks comparable to chronic disease.

Here in the Midwest, including communities across Wisconsin, these trends are showing up in our schools, our workplaces, and our homes.

Struggling doesn’t always look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like showing up… while quietly unraveling.

The Cost of Holding It All Together

There’s a version of strength that gets praised in our culture; the ability to push through, stay composed, keep going no matter what. But there’s a cost to that kind of strength when it comes at the expense of processing what we carry.

Unresolved guilt.
Shame we never spoke out loud.
Hurt we minimized.
Forgiveness we haven’t fully worked through.

These don’t just disappear because we stay busy. They settle. And over time, that emotional weight doesn’t stay contained to the mind, it begins to show up in the body. It can look like irritability that feels disproportionate to the situation. Exhaustion that sleep doesn’t fix. A sense of numbness where joy used to live. When we carry things we haven’t acknowledged, the body keeps score in quiet, persistent ways. Holding it together isn’t the same as being okay.

The Brain–Body Connection

We often think of “impact on the body” as something reserved for major trauma. And while trauma absolutely leaves a physiological footprint, it’s not the only thing that does. Chronic, unrelenting stress – the kind that feels manageable day-to-day – can have a profound biological effect over time. When the body perceives stress, it releases cortisol. In short bursts, that’s helpful. It keeps us alert and responsive (think fight or flight). But when stress becomes constant, cortisol stays elevated. And that matters because sustained high cortisol levels are associated with increased visceral adiposity (fat stored around vital organs) which is linked to higher risks of cardiovascular disease, metabolic dysfunction, and inflammation. In other words: the body responds to emotional strain as if it were a physical threat.

This isn’t about blame – it’s about awareness.

Because the same system that responds to stress can also be supported and regulated. Small, consistent practices can help. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s giving the body signals of safety again.

The Turning Point: Holding Two Things at Once

There’s a concept introduced by Dr. Kim Whitmore in her book Grateful and Grieving that resonates deeply: the “ampersand” moments. The idea that two things can be true at the same time.

You can be grateful and grieving.
Strong and struggling.
Functioning and not okay.

That tension isn’t something to fix, it’s something to acknowledge. For many of us, the turning point doesn’t come from a dramatic breakdown. It comes from a quiet moment of honesty: Something feels off… and I’m willing to notice it.

Naming a feeling doesn’t make it worse. It makes it visible. And visibility is where change begins.

Even when your mind tells you to push it down. Even when old messages from childhood, culture, or expectation tell you to “get over it.” You’re allowed to feel what you feel.

Small Steps That Actually Help

When everything feels heavy, the answer isn’t to overhaul your life overnight. It’s to start small and start honestly. Here are a few simple ways to begin:

A 5-Step Grounding Exercise

This brings your body out of overwhelm and back into the present.

  • Name 5 things you can see
  • 4 things you can feel
  • 3 things you can hear
  • 2 things you can smell
  • 1 thing you can taste
5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Exercise

Name the Feeling (Without Fixing It)
Instead of “I’m fine,” try:

  • “I feel overwhelmed.”
  • “I feel frustrated.”
  • “I feel hurt.”

Clarity reduces internal tension.

Control What You Can, Release What You Can’t
Draw two columns:

  1. What I can control
  2. What I cannot

Seeing it visually helps your brain stop trying to solve the unsolvable.

Gentle Body Reset
A short walk. Stretching. Deep breathing. Not as punishment but as support.

One Honest Conversation
With yourself, or someone you trust. You don’t have to carry everything alone.

A Small Invitation Forward

You don’t have to solve everything today. You don’t have to unpack every layer of what you’ve been carrying. But you can start here:

Name one thing that’s been sitting beneath the surface.
Acknowledge it without minimizing it.
And take one small step forward.

Because progress in mental health doesn’t come from force. It comes from awareness followed by gentle action.

What’s Next

In the next piece, during Mental Health Awareness Month, I’ll be inviting a perspective that’s often missing from this conversation – our kids. Not as observers of mental health, but as participants in it.

Through their own words, we’ll explore what it looks like to experience emotions, pressure, resilience, and growth in the first 12 years of life. Because mental health isn’t something we arrive at later. It’s something we’re building together from the very beginning.

Why I had to write this Book

I remember the moment, those two lines appeared. We locked eyes realizing life just changed.

I remember the “2-week wait” which felt like forever. The kind of forever that a child feels as they await each minute until their birthday party, or the kind of wait when there’s silence in the room. The wait of not knowing what they’ll say, what it all means, what’s next.

I remember the drive to the fertility clinic that day in March which was clouded with anticipation, fear and wonder. We hadn’t planned this. There was no IVF. But we had a hint that something unordinary was around the corner given that my initial HCG was 493 and then jumped to 1333 just 4 days later.

I remember the ultrasound room. The technician’s cold hands, the even cooler jelly on my belly. I remember the feeling as they scanned the landscape as if we were explorers uncovering new treasures with each inch of the wand’s movement across my stomach.

I remember the silence before the technician spoke and the sinking feeling as she counted. I remember realizing my life would never return to singular – we were in the era of the plural. The us became a we. It was no longer yours and mine. It was ours.

I have narrated the stories and life lessons in this blog for more than a decade. It has become more than a journey from a bump to baby(ies). This story is about the journey we all take from surprise to confidence, from disorganized to-do’s to controlled chaos, from fear to surrender.

Parenting and caregiving focuses on the bundle(s) of joy but we need to create space to grow, too. We are called to transform with them through every age and stage. Bump to Baby(ies) isn’t just about pregnancy and parenting. It’s about what happens when life multiplies faster than your capacity feels ready for.

This is my why for breaking the blog out of it’s box and into a book. That’s right, I’m birthing a book!

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing pieces of this journey as the manuscript heads to final edit and then on into the hands of those who I hope and pray will blossom from its message.

Looking Back at Bella (2024-2025)

She may move at sloth speed – but don’t be fooled. Bella is not only the fastest quint, her pace of life is also her superpower. Her steady stride lets her soak in the world in ways most people miss: every butterfly that flutters by, every golden sunset, every emotion written on someone’s face.

Rooted in deep faith and fueled by passion, Bella brings beauty, grace, and grit to everything she does; whether it’s mastering a tough gymnastics routine, acing a class project, or raking the yard like a champ. Bella doesn’t just do the job – she does it with heart.

Here’s to 12 years of wonder, wisdom, and a soul that sees magic where others rush by!

Looking Back at Bella (2024-2025)

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Looking Back at Bella | 2022-2023

Sweet Bella Bean continues to walk to the beat of her own drum. She remains our fearless fashionista who can make any pattern or color scheme work. Her pace of life is about as fast as the clouds passing by. Her cadence paired with her empathy is a divine recipe. She has a sixth sense about noticing God’s handiwork from natural anomalies to a water color sunset. Bella is also the first to know who needs a hug. Her big hugs squeeze the hardship right out of you, leaving room for all her love she has to share.

Now, a look back at Bella’s last year!

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Looking Back at Theo | 2022-2023

My buddy and Dad’s best friend is living his best life. This budding second baseman would spend all of his waking hours playing ball with his neighborhood buddies. And, this summer, he has! Theo loves routine and he’s pleased with a copy and paste type of day. However, watch out when he and Bella get the giggles because they’re unstoppable. Their sillies don’t cease until they say so. It is a true privilege to watch this young man tackle life and learn from his inquisitiveness, gentle nature and saint-like patience.

Now, a look back at Theo’s last year!

Theo at Eight Years…

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Looking Back at Lily | 2022-2023

Silly Lily Grace has a heart of gold and a contagious smile! She is always ready to lend a hand and loves to fold laundry, a divine gift in this household. She spends the majority of her day in a magical world of her own and the other half seeking sibling playmates. Lily remains our early bird, up by six and on a mission for her banana, raisin bread and sunny side egg. Her day is not done until she has a “night pride” mission with Uti the koala at her side.

Join me as we take a look back at Lily’s last year!

Lily at eight years…

Lily at seven years…

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Looking Back at Theo (2022)

Mr. Theo’s approach to life is a perfect example of love and logic. He takes each moment at a time, he is able to find peace amidst chaos, and his questions progress his learning independently. When he is not running the bases, sitting poolside with Dad or helping in the kitchen, you will find his nose in quality big Nate book. Theo’s creativity in both science and life bring a balance to our crew. His compassion is natural. His heart is such a large vessel that it is capable of bringing stability to the unstable. If you don’t have someone in your life that seems to just make it better, you need to find a Mr. Theo. His love for his girls is clear and his desire for his walk-on song one day to be chasing girls.

Now, a look back at Theo’s last year!

Theo at Seven Years…

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Theo’s First Year…

Looking Back at Bella (2022)

Bella is Bella. Our country girl is beautiful inside and out. She also has the rare ability to live life slowly when it is whizzing by. Nature stops her in her tracks; she rarely misses a beautiful sunrise and only bedtime keeps her from witnessing a serene sunset. Her photo gallery is the largest as she is passionate about capturing all of life’s moments. Everything from a creative pancake and sausage assembled into a silly face to giggling sisters to God’s paintbrush across the sky can be found on Bella’s camera. She is the sweetest in the bunch and her heart bleeds empathy. She sheds the most tears and laughs the loudest which, tells me she pays attention to the little things in life. My prayer for Bella is that her precious approach is never tainted by this world.

Now, a look back at Bella’s last year!

Bella at seven years…

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Bella at four years…

Bella at three years…

Bella at two years…

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Bella’s First Year…

Looking Back at Lily (2022)

This year we’re working our way from the inside out! Starting with lucky Lily, Quint #3.

You only live once. We knew it from an early age that Lily would be our little evil Knievel. She proved it this year bye launching herself off of a bunk bed. A nasty sprain and fracture took her summer but didn’t touch her spirit. Lily has a way of bringing fun to any situation. She never lets her nerves get in the way of making a new friend and purposely seeks out those sitting alone to share her joy. She is likely the chattiest – her teachers would agree- but this is how she feels her love tank each and every day. Whether you walk on two legs or four, everyone has a special place in Lily’s heart.

Join me as we take a look back at Lily’s last year!

Lily at seven years…

Lily at six years…

Lily at five years…

Lily at four years…

Lily at three years…

Lily at two years…

Lily at one year…

Lily’s First Year…