Feeding the Growing Athlete

It’s 3:35p.m., One kid needs to be at football by 4:45. Another is lacing up for a cross-country meet. Three more need to be at the gym in a leotard with their hair up 3 towns over, and all five have a science project due tomorrow. That’s a normal Tuesday at our house.

I’m a mom of five teens who also is a dietitian, and I still don’t have a perfect meal plan. What I do have is a plan that works most days, holds up on the messy ones, and keeps five growing bodies fed enough to learn, train, and recover.

The goal isn’t perfect nutrition. It’s a simple plan for real life.

What “Fueling the Growing Body” Really Means

Practice starts before your kid walks in the door. Food, fluids, and recovery are part of training, just like drills and conditioning. Teen athletes are asking their bodies to do three big jobs at once:

  1. Grow. The early teen years bring some of the fastest growth of their whole life: bones, muscles, brains, hormones, all of it.
  2. Learn. A full school day takes real energy. Focus, memory, and mood all run better on regular meals.
  3. Train. Practice, games, meets, and conditioning burn a lot on top of everything else.

When you add those up, most teen athletes need more food than parents expect, and they need it spread out across the day. This is not the season for cutting, skipping meals, “eating clean” to the extreme, or trying to change body size for a sport. A growing athlete who’s under-fueled doesn’t just feel tired. Their body starts making trade-offs, and growth and bone health are often the ones that pay.

So in our house, the question isn’t “Is this the healthiest possible food?” It’s “Did they eat enough, often enough, to do everything we’re asking of them today?”

The Busy-Week Map

Here’s how a typical school-and-practice day breaks down for us. Every family’s schedule is different, so borrow the parts that fit.

Before School: Breakfast Counts

Breakfast is the first fuel stop of a long day. It doesn’t need to be fancy. It needs to happen.

Quick ideas that work in our kitchen:

  • Eggs + a bagel + avocado or peanut butter (or a seed butter)
  • Overnight oats with Greek yogurt and a fruit and nuts of their choice
  • Peanut butter (or seed butter) and banana on toast
  • A smoothie with yogurt, fruit, and oats, plus a handful of nuts on the way out

If your teen “isn’t hungry” in the morning, start small. A glass of milk and a banana is better than nothing, and appetite often grows once breakfast becomes a habit.

Packing the Day: Lunch and the Backpack Snack

Lunch is what powers the afternoon and the start of practice. A lunch that’s just crackers won’t cover it. We aim for carbs + protein + a healthy fat (more on that formula below).

Then there’s what I call the backpack snack, the one they eat between classes when lunch didn’t last. This snack does a lot of heavy lifting, especially when lunch was at 10:45 and dinner is still hours away. Pack it the night before. Future you will be grateful.

After School, Before Practice

This is where a lot of teen athletes come up short. Lunch was hours ago, and they head straight into training running on fumes.

The general rhythm:

  • A fuller meal a few hours before practice (that’s usually lunch).
  • A smaller, easy-to-digest snack closer to practice, mostly carbohydrate with a little protein. Think fruit + a cheese stick, pretzels + a yogurt, half a sandwich, or a granola bar + milk.

Closer to practice, keep high-fat, high-fiber, and very heavy foods lighter. They digest slower and can leave some kids feeling sluggish or crampy, especially runners and gymnasts who are moving, flipping, or bouncing.

Dinner (In the car or at 8 p.m.)

Late dinners are real life in sports families. It’s okay. Dinner is still a full meal: carbs, protein, healthy fat, and some color from fruits or vegetables. If dinner is very late, the after-practice recovery snack becomes even more important so nobody hits the table starving and wiped out.

And then: homework, shower, sleep. Sleep is when a lot of growing and recovering happens. Protect it like you’d protect practice time.

The Next Morning

Recovery doesn’t end at bedtime. Breakfast the next morning restarts the cycle, especially after a hard practice, an evening game, or a long meet day.

The Build-a-Meal Formula

When I’m tired and the fridge is half-empty, I fall back on one simple formula:

Carbs (grains and fruit) + protein + a healthy fat

  • Carbs are the main fuel for training and for the brain. Think bread, rice, pasta, tortillas, oats, potatoes, crackers, and fruit.
  • Protein helps build and repair muscle and supports growth. Think meat, chicken, fish, eggs, dairy, beans, and tofu.
  • Healthy fats help with fullness, growth, and overall health. Think avocado, nut or seed butters, nuts, seeds, olive oil, and cheese.

Add a fruit or vegetable when you can. 

Meal Ideas That Work Across Sports

These are on regular rotation at our house. Most travel well, and many can be made ahead.

  • Meat and cheese sandwich + an apple with peanut butter or seed butter
  • Chicken and rice with sliced avocado
  • Protein pasta with your favorite sauce
  • Eggs + bagel + avocado or peanut butter (or seed butter)
  • Tortellini with red sauce and spinach
  • Turkey and cheese wrap + fruit
  • Hawaiian pita: ham, pineapple, and cheese tucked into a pita
  • Taco bowl: rice, seasoned meat or beans, cheese, salsa, and avocado
  • Mediterranean bowl: rice or quinoa, chicken, cucumber, tomato, hummus, and feta
  • PB&B: peanut butter (or seed butter) and banana on bread or a tortilla
  • Tuna salad with crackers or on a sandwich
  • Overnight oats with fruit and a spoonful of nut or seed butter
  • Mini pizzas on sandwich thins
  • Meat and cheese snack box with crackers, fruit, and cheese curds

Nut allergy at home or at school? Almond butter, seed butter, or organic soy-based spreads swap in nicely almost anywhere you see peanut butter. Always check your school’s or team’s allergy rules, and read labels for cross-contact.

Hydration: Top Priority

If you only change one thing this week, make it water. Even mild dehydration can make practice feel harder and leave kids feeling tired, headachy, or off. And teens are notorious for forgetting to drink until they’re already thirsty.

What works for us:

  • Send a full water bottle to school every day, and refill it before practice.
  • Drink through the day, not just at practice. Chugging a bottle in the car rarely makes up for a dry school day.
  • For longer or harder sessions (think long runs, hot football practices, two-a-days, all-day meets or tournaments), fluids with electrolytes and some carbohydrate, like a sports drink, can help replace sweat losses and support energy. For a regular practice of about an hour, water is usually enough.
  • Pay attention to heat. Hot days, heavy pads, and indoor gyms without air conditioning all raise fluid needs.

A Note on Caffeine

Energy drinks, pre-workouts, and coffee drinks are everywhere, and teens see older athletes using them. Caffeine isn’t recommended for kids and teens. It can disrupt sleep, which growing athletes badly need for recovery, and it can leave some kids jittery, anxious, or with a racing heart. Energy drinks – even Bubbler – are a firm no in our house. A good snack, enough water, and a decent night’s sleep do far more for a teen athlete.

Between Sessions, Drills, or Events

Hydration is the priority here. For long sessions, two-a-days, tournaments, or meets, a small, easy carb snack during breaks can help support energy.

On long days with breaks, such as meets, tournaments, or races with multiple events, easy options include:

  • Applesauce or yogurt pouches
  • A smoothie
  • Fruit, pretzels, or crackers
  • Trail mix

A sport-specific tip on trail mix: it’s great between sessions, but it’s heavier on fat and fiber, so it’s not ideal right before or in the middle of training. For gymnastics, save it for longer breaks rather than between rotations. For football, it works better at halftime of a long day or after practice than mid-drill. For cross-country, save it for after the race; before a run, stick to simpler carbs like a banana or pretzels.

Recovery: Refill the Tank

The car ride home is prime refueling time. A snack with carbs + protein within about 30 to 60 minutes after practice helps muscles recover and refills the tank, especially when dinner is still a ways off. We keep recovery snacks in the car for exactly this reason.

The simple rule: Carbs + protein within about 30 to 60 minutes.

After harder or longer sessions, some families like aiming for roughly twice as many carbs as protein. That ratio is optional. Getting a solid mix of carbs and protein in, and soon, is what matters most.

Our Favorite Recovery Picks

  • Cottage cheese + crackers + peaches
  • Snackle box: nuts or seeds, pretzels, cheese, and dried fruit in a tackle-box-style container
  • Yogurt parfait with granola and berries
  • Trail mix (with seeds instead of nuts if needed)
  • Bagel with peanut butter or seed butter + a hard-boiled egg
  • Chocolate milk + peanut butter toast (or seed butter toast)
  • Eggs in a frame: an egg cooked in the middle of a slice of toast
  • Half a turkey sandwich + a piece of fruit
  • Leftover pasta or rice bowl from last night’s dinner

Chocolate milk deserves a special shout-out. It’s cheap, kid-approved, travels in a lunch box with an ice pack, and brings both carbs and protein plus fluid.

When to Worry: Signs a Teen Athlete May Be Under-Fueling

This section is for parents and the clinicians who care for your child, like your pediatrician or a registered dietitian. It is not a checklist for coaches to screen athletes. If you notice something, the next step is a conversation with your child’s doctor or dietitian.

One symptom on its own doesn’t mean something is wrong. Teens get tired, moody, and hungry for all kinds of reasons. But several of these together, or signs that keep showing up, deserve attention:

  • Low energy that doesn’t bounce back with rest
  • Performance stalling or getting worse despite hard training
  • Frequent injuries, especially stress fractures or injuries that are slow to heal
  • Getting sick often
  • Mood changes: more irritable, anxious, down, or withdrawn
  • Trouble focusing at school
  • Growth slowing, or weight dropping or stalling during a time they should be growing
  • Feeling cold all the time, dizziness, or lightheadedness
  • Skipping meals, eating much less than teammates, or avoiding whole food groups
  • Strong worry about food, body size, or “earning” food through exercise
  • Changes in periods: periods that stop, become irregular, or haven’t started when expected
  • Labs that keep coming back low (like iron) at checkups

What’s Going On When Athletes Under-Fuel

When an athlete consistently doesn’t eat enough to cover training plus growth plus everyday life, the body starts cutting back to save energy. Doctors call this relative energy deficiency in sport, often shortened to RED-S. In plain words: there isn’t enough fuel for the amount of training.

You may also have heard of the female athlete triad. That describes three connected issues in girls and women: not enough fuel, changes in periods, and weaker bones.

But this isn’t just a “girl thing.” Boys and teen athletes of every gender can under-fuel too. It can show up as low energy, mood changes, slowed growth, hormone changes, and more injuries. My son’s football schedule and my daughter’s cross-country miles can drain a body just as fast as my gymnasts’ practices.

Many cases aren’t on purpose. A busy schedule, a small appetite, a long gap between lunch and practice, or a big growth spurt can all leave a kid short without anyone noticing. Sometimes, though, under-fueling is tied to disordered eating or an eating disorder.

Early care matters. Getting help sooner lowers the chance of lasting effects on growth, bones, and health. If you’re worried, call your pediatrician and ask about seeing a registered dietitian who works with young athletes.

If you suspect an eating disorder, please don’t try to handle it with a meal plan. This post isn’t medical advice or treatment for eating disorders. Reach out to your child’s doctor right away. If there are signs of immediate danger, such as fainting, chest pain, or thoughts of self-harm, seek urgent care or call or text 988.

A Simple Plan Beats a Perfect One

Most weeks at our house are not Pinterest-worthy. There are drive-thru nights, cereal-for-dinner nights, and nights when somebody eats a granola bar in the car while finishing a worksheet. That’s okay.

What keeps us steady is a handful of simple habits:

  • Eat breakfast, even a small one.
  • Pack the backpack snack the night before.
  • Carry a water bottle everywhere.
  • Fuel before practice: carbs + a little protein.
  • Refuel after practice: carbs + protein within an hour.
  • Protect sleep.
  • Watch the big picture, and loop in your pediatrician or dietitian if something feels off.

Our kids are growing, learning, and training all at the same time. When we fuel them for all three, they don’t just perform better. They have what they need to grow, recover, and enjoy the sports they love.

That’s what Fuel to Flourish™ is all about.

This post is for general education and isn’t a substitute for individual medical or nutrition care. Every athlete is different. Talk with your child’s pediatrician or a registered dietitian about your family’s specific needs, allergies, or health concerns.

The Gift of Written Word

There’s something powerful about taking a story that lives in your heart and finally putting it into words.

I’m incredibly grateful to Motivational MD Publishing for helping me transform one story into a growing collection of books and, ultimately, a bigger vision for Fuel to Flourish™.

Sometimes writing a book doesn’t just tell your story. It helps you discover what you’re meant to do with it!

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From Baby(ies) to Big Kids: Thirteen Years of Becoming

This week, the V5 turn thirteen. Thirteen. I sat with that sentence for a minute because for so long, our story was defined by the beginning. The shock of discovering there weren’t one, two, or even three babies growing inside me but five.

The appointments. The preparation. The uncertainty. The NICU. Then, the bottles and diapers and feeding schedules. Five car seats. Five cribs. Five tiny people who somehow needed us all at once.

When I wrote Bump to Baby(ies), I told the story of how our family began. It was a story about pregnancy, surrender, survival, and discovering courage when life multiplied in ways we never could have imagined.

That first season passed quickly. The days were long but the years short. They became toddlers with opinions. Preschoolers with personalities. Elementary schoolers discovering friendships, sports, strengths, and struggles. And now, somehow, they are teenagers.

The Story After Survival

People have asked us versions of the same question since the kids were born: How do you do it with five?

When they were babies, the answers were practical. Schedules. Systems. Preparation. Teamwork. And probably more coffee than medically advisable.

But as they grew, the question became much more complicated. How do we raise five children at the exact same age while honoring that they are five completely different people?

How do we create structure without controlling them?

How do we help them become resilient without protecting them from every struggle?

How do we teach responsibility while making home a place where mistakes are safe?

How do we stay connected as schedules, sports, school, friends, emotions, and independence begin pulling everyone in different directions?

And maybe the biggest question of all: How do we raise children who know they are deeply loved while preparing them to eventually walk into the world without us?

I definitely don’t have all the answers. Thirteen years into this parenting, social experiment, I’m more convinced of that than ever.

What I do have are lessons. Lots and lots of lessons. Some learned beautifully. Others learned the hard way.

One of the surprises of parenting has been realizing that children aren’t the only ones growing. The parents we were when five babies came home are not the parents we are today.

We’ve learned that connection matters more than control. That repair matters more than getting every interaction right. That our children can share the same home, the same parents, and even the same birthday and still need completely different things from us.

We’ve learned to laugh. We’ve learned to apologize. We’ve learned to have hard conversations. We’ve learned that sometimes the best parenting happens around the dinner table, driving to practice, or during a completely ordinary Tuesday night.

And we’ve learned that resilient families aren’t families without struggle. They’re families who learn how to move through struggle together. That became the heart of Baby(ies) to Big Kids.

A Book About Becoming

Baby(ies) to Big Kids isn’t a story about how we figured out parenting. Quite the opposite. It’s about what we’ve learned while figuring it out.

The CALM parenting framework is about raising resilient kids while continuing to become resilient adults. It’s about communication rooted in curiosity, anchoring values, connection through words and actions, responsibility, emotional awareness, and creating a family culture intentionally even when real life is loud and messy.

And because reading about these ideas only takes us so far, the story grew again. I created companion workbooks for parents and youth so families could move from reading about resilience and connection to actually practicing them together. What began as a story had become a set of resources. 

We Were Never Meant to Do This Alone

There’s another lesson woven throughout these thirteen years that deserves its own chapter: Family resilience doesn’t happen in isolation.

Our children have been shaped by grandparents, teachers, coaches, healthcare professionals, neighbors, friends, and people who have simply shown up again and again. So have I.

We have been privileged to grow up alongside two of our people, Alex and Danielle. Frank and Alex became best friends in high school, two kids from neighboring towns bonded by Seinfeld, classic rock, and countless hours writing and playing music in Alex’s basement before rocking talent shows and benefit concerts together. Their friendship followed them to college, where they joined the same fraternity and eventually served as president and vice president, and where Alex met Danielle, who quickly became part of our story,  too. Over the years, the four of us have celebrated, struggled, built careers, raised families, laughed, challenged one another, and become family. We are iron that sharpens iron, but perhaps our greatest lesson has been that even strong people need a village.

Danielle has been part of ours through so many chapters, which makes it especially meaningful that she wrote the foreword to Baby(ies) to Big Kids. There is something incredibly special about having someone who has witnessed the messy middle of your story help introduce it to the world.

And Now There Are Five Teenagers

On the weekend of their thirteenth birthday, I find myself looking backward and forward at the same time. I can still see those five tiny babies. But I also see five young people becoming increasingly themselves. And I know the next chapter will bring questions I haven’t even thought to ask yet.

But this week? I’m going to celebrate five thirteen-year-olds. I’m going to marvel at the fact that somehow we made it from five NICU isolettes to five teenagers. And I’m going to remind myself that we still haven’t arrived. Thank goodness.

Happy 13th birthday, Theo, Bella, Lily, Kali, and Ellie!

What an extraordinary adventure it is to grow alongside you.

Flourishing Was Never the Destination

For most of my life, I thought flourishing would look like arriving.

Arriving at motherhood.

Arriving at health.

Arriving at a credential.

Arriving at a career title.

Arriving at peace.

Like many of us, I have spent years believing that life would finally make sense once I reached the next milestone. If I could just make it through school. Build my career. Have a family. Find balance. Achieve success. Then I would finally feel like I had arrived.

But life has a remarkable way of rewriting our plans.

When I learned I was pregnant with quintuplets, every expectation I had for motherhood changed overnight. My carefully imagined future gave way to uncertainty, high-risk pregnancy, months of medical appointments, and eventually the quiet, sacred halls of the NICU. The destination I had envisioned disappeared, replaced by one I never would have chosen.

And yet, that’s where I first began to understand what flourishing really means.

It wasn’t found in having all the answers.

It wasn’t found in perfect health, perfect circumstances, or a perfectly predictable life.

It was found in the courage to keep growing anyway amidst a perfect mess.

Over the years, life has continued to teach me this lesson.

Sometimes flourishing looks like surviving the NICU one day at a time.

Sometimes it looks like rebuilding after heartbreak or disappointment.

Sometimes it looks like changing careers, embracing new opportunities, or letting go of a version of yourself you thought you had to become.

Sometimes it looks like sitting around the dinner table laughing with the people you love after an incredibly hard day.

Sometimes it looks like asking for help.

Sometimes it looks like extending grace to yourself.

Sometimes it simply looks like trying again tomorrow.

I’ve come to believe that flourishing isn’t reserved for people whose lives are easy. It’s available to every one of us. Not because our circumstances are perfect, but because growth is always possible if we choose it.

As both a healthcare leader and a mom, I’ve had the privilege of walking alongside thousands of people navigating some of life’s biggest battles. I have partnered with patients digesting a new diagnosis, families managing chronic illness, children building resilience, communities working toward better health, and people searching for hope in the midst of uncertainty.

What I’ve learned is that beneath every diagnosis, every challenge, every success, and every setback is the same universal question: How do we continue to grow when life doesn’t unfold the way we expected?

That question has shaped every part of my journey.

It inspired Bump to Baby(ies), where I shared the unexpected story of pregnancy, the NICU, and discovering courage in surrender.

It continued through Baby(ies) to Big Kids, where the focus shifted from surviving parenthood to intentionally raising resilient, connected families.

It found new life in workbooks created to help parents and children put those ideas into practice.

It expanded through Life is a Battle, And We Will Win, reminding young people that every challenge they face can become part of a story of hope, resilience, and perseverance.

And now, it has grown into something even bigger.

Fuel to Flourish™ isn’t simply a program or a collection of books. It’s a philosophy. A commitment. A movement rooted in one simple belief: Every person deserves the opportunity not just to survive but to flourish.

Whether that means helping a new mom feel less alone.

Supporting a child who is learning to navigate anxiety.

Equipping families with practical tools to strengthen connection.

Partnering with schools to build resilient students.

Collaborating with healthcare systems to create more compassionate, person-centered care.

Or working alongside communities to improve health from the inside out.

It’s all connected. Because flourishing isn’t about arriving. It’s about becoming. 

It’s about choosing hope when circumstances feel uncertain.

Choosing connection when life feels busy.

Choosing courage when fear feels loud.

Choosing growth when giving up would be easier.

None of us will escape life’s battles. But together, we can learn to face them with resilience, compassion, and purpose.

My hope is that Fuel to Flourish becomes more than a collection of resources.

I hope it becomes a community where families feel supported, young people feel seen, healthcare becomes more human, and every person is reminded that flourishing isn’t something we earn once we’ve reached perfection. It’s something we practice every single day.

So whether you’re navigating pregnancy, parenting, adolescence, illness, career transitions, or simply trying to become the person you were created to be…

Welcome. I’m so grateful you’re here. Because this journey isn’t about arriving. It’s about flourishing together.

When You’re Functioning, But Not Okay: Mental Health Awareness

Redefining What “Struggling” Really Looks Like

For a long time, health was measured by what we could see; Blood pressure. Weight. Lab values. Physical endurance. If those checked out, we called ourselves “healthy.” But something has shifted. We’re beginning to understand that mental and social wellbeing aren’t secondary – they are foundational. You can be physically “fine” and still be carrying a level of emotional weight that quietly erodes your quality of life.

And the data is catching up to what many have been feeling:

  • Among youth, rates of persistent sadness and hopelessness have risen significantly over the past decade, with nearly 1 in 3 adolescents reporting poor mental health in recent national surveys.
  • Adults report increasing levels of anxiety, burnout, and emotional exhaustion, especially those balancing caregiving, careers, and constant connectivity.
  • Older adults face rising levels of loneliness and isolation, both of which are now recognized as serious health risks comparable to chronic disease.

Here in the Midwest, including communities across Wisconsin, these trends are showing up in our schools, our workplaces, and our homes.

Struggling doesn’t always look like falling apart. Sometimes it looks like showing up… while quietly unraveling.

The Cost of Holding It All Together

There’s a version of strength that gets praised in our culture; the ability to push through, stay composed, keep going no matter what. But there’s a cost to that kind of strength when it comes at the expense of processing what we carry.

Unresolved guilt.
Shame we never spoke out loud.
Hurt we minimized.
Forgiveness we haven’t fully worked through.

These don’t just disappear because we stay busy. They settle. And over time, that emotional weight doesn’t stay contained to the mind, it begins to show up in the body. It can look like irritability that feels disproportionate to the situation. Exhaustion that sleep doesn’t fix. A sense of numbness where joy used to live. When we carry things we haven’t acknowledged, the body keeps score in quiet, persistent ways. Holding it together isn’t the same as being okay.

The Brain–Body Connection

We often think of “impact on the body” as something reserved for major trauma. And while trauma absolutely leaves a physiological footprint, it’s not the only thing that does. Chronic, unrelenting stress – the kind that feels manageable day-to-day – can have a profound biological effect over time. When the body perceives stress, it releases cortisol. In short bursts, that’s helpful. It keeps us alert and responsive (think fight or flight). But when stress becomes constant, cortisol stays elevated. And that matters because sustained high cortisol levels are associated with increased visceral adiposity (fat stored around vital organs) which is linked to higher risks of cardiovascular disease, metabolic dysfunction, and inflammation. In other words: the body responds to emotional strain as if it were a physical threat.

This isn’t about blame – it’s about awareness.

Because the same system that responds to stress can also be supported and regulated. Small, consistent practices can help. The goal isn’t perfection. It’s giving the body signals of safety again.

The Turning Point: Holding Two Things at Once

There’s a concept introduced by Dr. Kim Whitmore in her book Grateful and Grieving that resonates deeply: the “ampersand” moments. The idea that two things can be true at the same time.

You can be grateful and grieving.
Strong and struggling.
Functioning and not okay.

That tension isn’t something to fix, it’s something to acknowledge. For many of us, the turning point doesn’t come from a dramatic breakdown. It comes from a quiet moment of honesty: Something feels off… and I’m willing to notice it.

Naming a feeling doesn’t make it worse. It makes it visible. And visibility is where change begins.

Even when your mind tells you to push it down. Even when old messages from childhood, culture, or expectation tell you to “get over it.” You’re allowed to feel what you feel.

Small Steps That Actually Help

When everything feels heavy, the answer isn’t to overhaul your life overnight. It’s to start small and start honestly. Here are a few simple ways to begin:

A 5-Step Grounding Exercise

This brings your body out of overwhelm and back into the present.

  • Name 5 things you can see
  • 4 things you can feel
  • 3 things you can hear
  • 2 things you can smell
  • 1 thing you can taste
5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Exercise

Name the Feeling (Without Fixing It)
Instead of “I’m fine,” try:

  • “I feel overwhelmed.”
  • “I feel frustrated.”
  • “I feel hurt.”

Clarity reduces internal tension.

Control What You Can, Release What You Can’t
Draw two columns:

  1. What I can control
  2. What I cannot

Seeing it visually helps your brain stop trying to solve the unsolvable.

Gentle Body Reset
A short walk. Stretching. Deep breathing. Not as punishment but as support.

One Honest Conversation
With yourself, or someone you trust. You don’t have to carry everything alone.

A Small Invitation Forward

You don’t have to solve everything today. You don’t have to unpack every layer of what you’ve been carrying. But you can start here:

Name one thing that’s been sitting beneath the surface.
Acknowledge it without minimizing it.
And take one small step forward.

Because progress in mental health doesn’t come from force. It comes from awareness followed by gentle action.

What’s Next

In the next piece, during Mental Health Awareness Month, I’ll be inviting a perspective that’s often missing from this conversation – our kids. Not as observers of mental health, but as participants in it.

Through their own words, we’ll explore what it looks like to experience emotions, pressure, resilience, and growth in the first 12 years of life. Because mental health isn’t something we arrive at later. It’s something we’re building together from the very beginning.

Why I had to write this Book

I remember the moment, those two lines appeared. We locked eyes realizing life just changed.

I remember the “2-week wait” which felt like forever. The kind of forever that a child feels as they await each minute until their birthday party, or the kind of wait when there’s silence in the room. The wait of not knowing what they’ll say, what it all means, what’s next.

I remember the drive to the fertility clinic that day in March which was clouded with anticipation, fear and wonder. We hadn’t planned this. There was no IVF. But we had a hint that something unordinary was around the corner given that my initial HCG was 493 and then jumped to 1333 just 4 days later.

I remember the ultrasound room. The technician’s cold hands, the even cooler jelly on my belly. I remember the feeling as they scanned the landscape as if we were explorers uncovering new treasures with each inch of the wand’s movement across my stomach.

I remember the silence before the technician spoke and the sinking feeling as she counted. I remember realizing my life would never return to singular – we were in the era of the plural. The us became a we. It was no longer yours and mine. It was ours.

I have narrated the stories and life lessons in this blog for more than a decade. It has become more than a journey from a bump to baby(ies). This story is about the journey we all take from surprise to confidence, from disorganized to-do’s to controlled chaos, from fear to surrender.

Parenting and caregiving focuses on the bundle(s) of joy but we need to create space to grow, too. We are called to transform with them through every age and stage. Bump to Baby(ies) isn’t just about pregnancy and parenting. It’s about what happens when life multiplies faster than your capacity feels ready for.

This is my why for breaking the blog out of it’s box and into a book. That’s right, I’m birthing a book!

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing pieces of this journey as the manuscript heads to final edit and then on into the hands of those who I hope and pray will blossom from its message.

Looking Back at Bella | 2022-2023

Sweet Bella Bean continues to walk to the beat of her own drum. She remains our fearless fashionista who can make any pattern or color scheme work. Her pace of life is about as fast as the clouds passing by. Her cadence paired with her empathy is a divine recipe. She has a sixth sense about noticing God’s handiwork from natural anomalies to a water color sunset. Bella is also the first to know who needs a hug. Her big hugs squeeze the hardship right out of you, leaving room for all her love she has to share.

Now, a look back at Bella’s last year!

Belle at eight years…

Bella at seven years…

Bella at six years…

Bella at five years…

Bella at four years…

Bella at three years…

Bella at two years…

Bella at one year…

Bella’s First Year…

Looking Back at Theo | 2022-2023

My buddy and Dad’s best friend is living his best life. This budding second baseman would spend all of his waking hours playing ball with his neighborhood buddies. And, this summer, he has! Theo loves routine and he’s pleased with a copy and paste type of day. However, watch out when he and Bella get the giggles because they’re unstoppable. Their sillies don’t cease until they say so. It is a true privilege to watch this young man tackle life and learn from his inquisitiveness, gentle nature and saint-like patience.

Now, a look back at Theo’s last year!

Theo at Eight Years…

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Theo at Seven Years…

Theo at Six Years…

Theo at Five Years…

Theo at Four Years…

Theo at Three Years…

Theo at Two Years…

Theo’s First Year…

Looking Back at Ellie | 2022-2023

Ellie Rose continues to find her way to the top in all that she does from schoolwork to gymnastics. They told us she’d be our determined one with all of the complication in utero and they were right! She is wise beyond her years and always able to call out the elephant in the room with ease and clarity. If she doesn’t find her way into the Oval Office in 2053 we are hedging bets that she’ll be a compassionate leader wherever she lands.

Now, a look back at our Ellie Rosie over the last year!

Ellie at eight years…

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Ellie at seven years…

Ellie at six years…

Ellie at five years…

Ellie at four years…

Ellie at three years…

Ellie at two years…

Ellie at one year…

If you really want to turn back the clock, check out Ellie’s First Year…

Looking Back at Lily | 2022-2023

Silly Lily Grace has a heart of gold and a contagious smile! She is always ready to lend a hand and loves to fold laundry, a divine gift in this household. She spends the majority of her day in a magical world of her own and the other half seeking sibling playmates. Lily remains our early bird, up by six and on a mission for her banana, raisin bread and sunny side egg. Her day is not done until she has a “night pride” mission with Uti the koala at her side.

Join me as we take a look back at Lily’s last year!

Lily at eight years…

Lily at seven years…

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Lily at six years…

Lily at five years…

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Lily at four years…

Lily at three years…

Lily at two years…

Lily at one year…

Lily’s First Year…